While it isn’t yet determined as to the circumstances of Mum’s death, I was astounded to discover last year that certain accidental road deaths aren’t covered by funds like Victims of Crime. No amount of money can bring a loved one back and compensate for the loss, but having to find money out of your own funds to pay for counselling support in times of extreme trauma doesn’t help those left behind who are struggling to deal with the aftermath.
Many counselling services are available to help with loss through terminal illness, but the volunteers are not trained to help with the emotions that seem to arise when, in your mind, a loved one has been taken by the inattention of another human behind the wheel – or even by the loved one themselves if they were responsible. As you move through the stages of grief, it’s hard not to get stuck on the ‘angry’ stage in a road trauma.
Organisations such as Roadpeace are actively trying to find ways to raise awareness of the impact on victims, and that is why some of the fundraising I am doing is to support them.